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Sexual morality a struggle for some Christians

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Over 2,000 years ago, in ancient Biblical times, the Christian church of Corinth earned a notorious reputation for its sexual immorality. The Apostle Paul documented in 1 Corinthians 5:1 that the Corinthian church members’ immoral sexual behavior was more notorious than their non-Christian counterparts. Then and now, fornication and adultery are tarnishing the reputation of the universal church body.

So, how are saved and sanctified church members confronting sexual immorality in the modern day church?

“Christians are also men and women, many of whom come to church with excess baggage from the prior week. Unfortunately, in this day of fast food, instant messaging, and high-speed internet, some Christians are allowing themselves to get ‘caught-up’ in instant gratification without considering the repercussion of their actions on themselves, their families, and/or their communities,” says Quibila A. Divine, a local committeeperson for the11th Ward/12th Division.

Many people from all walks of life visit and join churches for diverse reasons. Among the myriad of reasons, people are seeking healing, protection, hope, forgiveness, spiritual counseling, repentance, encouragement and unconditional love.

Is the church failing them?

“In the last 10 years we have had our share of sex scandals that have rocked the Christian church. Black and white — religion sees no color,” states Shirea L. Carroll, author of “10 Sex Scandals that Rocked the Christian Church,” which appeared in the September 2010 edition of Essence magazine. Carroll, web editor for Juicy magazine, offered the following comments when interviewed for this article: "Christian is just a title. The belief system, morals, values, and responsibility that come with that title isn't always practiced the way it is taught.

Religion doesn't stop ‘Christians’ or anyone else from answering to their flesh, In a real deal relationship with whatever higher power you answer to, that weighs in on the decisions people make."

The Holy Bible urges people to, “Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body (1 Corinthians 6:18).” It is believed that Biblical scriptures warn against Christians committing adultery and fornication, because sexual immorality has harsh mortal and eternal consequences. So, why do many Christians sin against their own body and God?

Col. Larry Boyd, U.S. Army, who is a married Christian, offered this response: “Christians do not have a special immunity to these lusts and temptations.” Boyd cites that there’s no such thing as “a little sin or a big sin. Sin is sin and we all fall short from time to time…None of us can cast any stone. We just have to keep one another in prayer and (examine our own behavior).”

Jillian Patricia Pirtle, the reigning Miss Black Pennsylvania and a native Philadelphian, offered this comment: “I do not know how much light I can shed to the subject…because I am still a virgin saving myself for marriage. So I am not an expert on being a (single) Christian that is sexually active and I tend to be very private…It is okay to be a virgin and not to give up. God has a plan.”

Confessing that he had sex before getting married, Ted Watkins, a member of Community Baptist Church, in Henderson, Nev., offered this candid testimony: “For me, [I] was seeking my own pleasure and satisfying my desires…[and] not accepting God's authority in my life. [Christians] still fight that battle, even to this day. We stand in opposition to Christ and his authority on many issues. We think we know it all. Imperfect vessels? For me, absolutely.”

“Sin is sin. One sin is no different from the other. Christians are people,” says Naja Killebrew, a marketing and public relations entrepreneur in Philadelphia. On the topic of Christians having sex before marriage, Killebrew pondered, “What if you never marry? Now what?”

Merwin L. McIntyre, a retired postal worker, said, “As a married Christian, I understand the ramifications of adultery (and) single Christians should never put themselves in a compromising position, the flesh is weak!”

The Bible teaches that faithful Christian disciples (single or married) should avoid sexual immorality (Exodus 20:14; Proverbs 6:32; 1Corinthians 6:9-10; Hebrews 13:4).

“Like a world class athlete, serving God takes constraint, self-sacrifice and a laser-like focus on God’s mission and will,” shared Derek Green, an airplane pilot and aerospace engineer from the University of Alabama.

Kim Barnett, a happily married graduate of Liberty University and Philadelphia Biblical University, stated that it’s sexual frustration that lures single and married Christians into sexual immorality.

“If the truth be told (sexual immorality) is not only a single’s sin, it’s a marital sin as well! When a Christian is sexually frustrated, being obedient to the Word of God is desired, but the pull of the flesh is desired as well. When we allow ourselves to be put in tempted situations, we need to know that God will make a way of escape.”

The key is, are most Christians spiritually strong enough to recognize and take God’s escape-route from the lure of sexually immorality?

Ideally, it is best for Christians to simply avoid acting on urges to commit fornication or adulterous sex. How? Peter David, author of “How Christians and Ministers Can Avoid Sexual Immorality,” on Ezinearticles.com, offers a few simple answers:

--If you’re single, get married.

--If you’re married, pay more attention to your spouse. Don’t take him or her for granted, and pay particular attention to your spouse’s sexual needs.

7 comments

  • XAVIER

    My name is X and I personally believe both people should have the lord Jesus christ as there lord and Savior in there mind, body, heart and spirit before considering Marriage and not just at Sunday service or get married because there fornicating . From my experience I have realized that our actions speak louder than words as True Soldiers for Christ Jesus we must realize christ never condemned the sinner instead he showed love, mercy and grace. Last time I checked divorce was the new marriage people are going to be people nobody is perfect and if christ is filled with grace then the church should be the ocean. I love all my brothers and sisters just as christ loved you unconditionally I pray whatever your sin is that you come to know christ and sin no more because when you die you will meet God. IJNIPA.

    XAVIER Saturday, 11 May 2013 21:38 Comment Link
  • Bibiana

    It is all very well and good to suggest that marriage would solve sexual frustration, but that is pretty much a pat answer. Many people will never marry for a myriad of reasons, and unfortunately.not all of them are called to the single life. I question the idea that singleness allows a person more time for God. That is true if this is your calling, but I think it would be very difficult to concentrate on ANYTHING if you are continually sexually frustrated. Many cultures deal with this by arranged marraiges, but in our culture very few people are emotionally or financially ready to marry in their teens. Perhaps my opinion will open a can of worms, but I feel that the answer is masturbation, both solo and mutual.

    Bibiana Tuesday, 07 May 2013 18:43 Comment Link
  • Kate

    Well, gee-whiz! If it were that simple (if single, get married).....I would do it!! There isn't anyone in my life I am in love with so that doesn't work. All these bumper sticker sayings dont help. Nothing does.

    Kate Sunday, 30 December 2012 15:30 Comment Link
  • awoyemi philip

    I want to appreciate everyone comments and contribution on fornication and adultery especially in the christian environment. I defiled myself before i got married and after my marriage. Each time it happened, i would be far away from happiness for several weeks or months, after sometimes i found my way back to the same immorality. am conscious of God, and likely effect, i want to get out of this problem, it has put much shame to my life and has defiled me. my flesh is weak, help me oh God, am using this medium to cry out to you men of God who might have passed through this stage to help me out, i want the joy of Christ back in my life.

    awoyemi philip Tuesday, 27 September 2011 07:16 Comment Link
  • Lisa

    Tammy,
    Thank you for your honest post, it is encouraging and I will pray that you continue in your healthy relationship without sex.

    Lisa Friday, 23 September 2011 21:02 Comment Link
  • Tammy Grant

    I am single Christian woman and I am 43 years old and have never married. During my dating experiences it has always been a struggle to abstain from sex while dating. One thing I can say that I purpose in my heart to wait but there were times I won some then I lost some but I won more than I lost. The issue for me was putting myself in compromising environments with no accountabilty which opened me up to sin. I am currenting date now and its a real struggle. We vowed to do most of our dates outside and so we can avoid sexual immorality. Please keep us in your prayers as we do it Gods way.

    Tammy Grant Friday, 09 September 2011 22:16 Comment Link
  • Tee Wan

    As a Christian I went 6yrs without fornicating...it was not until I entered into a relationship with someone that my flesh became weak and I entered into fornication...Reading the article it was stated that singles should get married and I totally agree but I don't believe you should just marry to avoid fornication...I believe that you and your mate(prayerfully he/she is saved as well)should come into agreement with the word of God together to honor God first and not their flesh and then begin to try different avenues to grow closer together in their relationship without fornicating and without just jumping the broom because you should marry the right person at the right time

    Tee Wan Friday, 09 September 2011 14:14 Comment Link

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